We all know that in order to get really good at something you need to practice. It could be a skill you are trying to master or your favorite sport. My son is super humanly good at hula hooping, and let me tell you, he did not get it from his momma. He is good because he practices. My husband is very well practiced at concocting the most delicious mojitos. I was a prodigy pianist growing up. How did I get so skilled? Practice.
Think of some things you are good at… speaking another language, cooking, healthy eating, singing, photography, drawing, texting, complaining, telling yourself you aren’t good enough, disliking your reflection in the mirror, constantly putting your needs last, believing your excuses. How did you get so good at all those things? Uh huh, practice! Not everything we practice is beneficial. In fact, some things we excel at can be downright damaging. I mean, who wants to be good at complaining?! It is time to stop letting ourselves get so good at behaviors that do not uplift or strengthen us. Many of us, including me, have practiced for years the belief that we are not strong enough, smart enough, or important enough.
Those negative thoughts begin to affect all aspects of life and can be a detriment to your overall wellness. Not feeling well leads to a lack of motivation, stress, and depression. It is time to change your practice and reset the negative process. Nourish your mind with positive thoughts!
Start to become more aware of negative thoughts and edit them to be positive ones. For example, if you happen to catch a glance of yourself in the mirror your first thought may be “my thighs are out of control” or “my arms are flabby” stop! Think “my quadriceps are so strong” or “wow, that abdominal work is paying off”. Practice being nice to yourself. Practice loving yourself. The more you practice the less those negative thoughts will sneak into your mind.
To all the parents out there: Stop practicing guilt! So many parents have mentioned to me that they feel guilty for working, taking the time to exercise or simply taking time to relax. Being good at feeling guilty does not service anyone. Instead tell yourself “I am working to provide for my family and to accomplish my personal career goals”. How about “I am a better parent because I am strengthening my mind and body” or even better “I deserve an hour a day for me time”. Commit to redirecting negativity, guilt and self depreciation.
While editing your thoughts in a positive way is so important, the ultimate goal is to pursue happiness, contentment, and balance. Practice joy, laughter, and confidence—you will get really good at it. Take the time to practice mindfulness and listen to your true thoughts—you will get really good at it. Practice accepting your flaws and forgiving yourself for negative thoughts. Lastly, do not practice perfection. Strive for the most authentic raw version of yourself.
